7 Helpful mindset exercises to calm someone down when they are angry or upset

 Helpful mindset exercises to calm someone down when they are angry or upset 

We all have someone around us who gets frustrated or overreacts to some events and starts doing serious activities, including harming himself or others, and starts damaging surrounding objects. If you are the one, facing this sort of person in your life and want to help him, then here are some really helpful mindset exercises to calm someone down when one is angry or upset. So, let's start.

Listen to that  person and try to understand them

First of all, you have to understand the person and his situation at that time. People actually get into this situation when they are facing some uncertainty in their life, maybe downfall, an accident, or when they feel that nobody listens and understands them. Sometimes the reason behind a person's overreaction can be any other. In this condition, all a person wants is someone who can understand them and listen to their problems. You should show sympathy to that person in that situation.

Relax them by your words or acts

When these persons are  getting mad with anger they would not be able to accept any logic, as a person in the state of anger becomes mind foggy and is not able to reason. Before starting further discussion, relax them in the first place instead of arguing with them. Don't show negative or angry expressions to them as this act can make them even more frustrated, remain calm and don't mind any of their words. Have a calm and slight smile on your face and ask them to sit down and let  them take a deep breath. You can say the following phrases in this condition:

• “Hey relax, bro! Let's have a calm discussion about this matter” 

• “Ok I understand you, let's sit down and talk about it.”

• "Alright, dude! Just relax, let's calmly remove the confusion in this matter."

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Offer them some water 

Bring these people a glass of water and let them relax for a few minutes until they stabilise their thoughts. Water has amazing benefits especially about stabilizing emotions-it reduces stress and relaxes our body as well as our emotions, magically. Studies show that drinking water decreases the level of cortisol (a stress hormone). University of Connecticut showed in a study the remarkable effects of water in balancing emotions and mood swings.

Don't argue with them, Accept their logic temporarily

To save a relationship it is important to avoid a fight and control the situation by temporarily agreeing to that person (you can try to convince them of your logic later). This act makes that person feel protected and relaxed. Try not to argue with them because this can make the situation worse. 

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Remain calm and don’t become equally angry

If you become equally angry then you are not going to solve the matter. It makes that person more aggressive, remain calm and stabilized. You shouldn’t react in the same way. Try to make that person feel that you really care about him/her and his/her feelings, these acts can make that person relaxed.

Admit and Apologize if you made a mistake

Apologizing in the first place can solve the matters instead of worsening them. Admit your mistake and apologize to them in the matter. This act doesn't make your ego down but actually boosts your confidence in admitting what is wrong. 

Try saying some positive points

Try diverting the attention of that person from anger to any other point like:

 ”look! how childish we are looking fighting like this.”

“We are going to miss these fights afterward.”

 Or you can add humor to the situation which makes you both laugh. Many people use this technique to calm some of their emotional friends, family members and partners so it can be absolutely effective.